Showing posts with label Mum. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mum. Show all posts

Sunday, May 12, 2019

Happy Mother's Day in Heaven

Mum with all her girls

Anne - Reflection
I made this video last year after hearing Ed Sheeran's Supermarket Flowers; I did make a few minor changes to it.  This song will forever remind me of packing away my mother's clothes and belongings at the nursing home; so few material things were left once we had sorted through her things.




But she left us with many memories, she lived a life full of love and still lives on in our memories. I'm still scanning family photos, at least the ones with people I know in them. These are just a few I have scanned of my mother.

Bourton-on the-Water, England, 1990

Anne with brother Jimmy, Fall 1956

Anne with her mother Louise Arsenault Pineau


















Family trips in the Volkswagen van is how I remember us. We had many summer camping and road trips in that van. Mum and Dad always made them special.

Family Trips 

Tuesday, February 12, 2019

Stories my Mother Told Me

Today marks one year since my mother passed away and at the end of the month she would have been 85, I thought I would write a little post about stories she told me about her life.

The first one is a story that really someone would have had to tell her. My mother was born on Prince Edward Island and the weather at that time of year can be very cold and snowy. Well as luck would have it there was a snow storm on the day of her birth. My mother was born with the umbilical cord around her neck so the midwife sent her father to get the doctor. He had to go with the horse and cutter to get the doctor.  And since I'm telling this story, you know it all went well.  It was 1934, every time Mum told us this story we always said it sounded like "Little House on the Prairie". It was a leap year that year and Mum also told us she wished she had been born the next day on Feb 29th.





My mother had tuberculosis of the spine and had to have surgery when she was quite young. Se had a scar running all the way up her back. She had to stay home from school for a year, much of it spent in bed in a body cast.  She said it was while she was home that her mother taught her to knit and sew.  Once she was able to get up, she also started piano lessons which she loved all of her life.  Even before that she said that she and two of her brothers had spinal meningitis but most doctors told her that was very unlikely it was spinal meningitis.  But she remembered that the house was quarantined and people would bring them baskets of food since they couldn't leave the house. She and her brother Terence thought it was great fun since they weren't very ill and also got to stay home from school. Her younger brother Phil was very ill though so ill that they had the parish priest come to give him Last Rites. They all survived.



My mother and her family moved to Halifax during WWII. She said it was the first house she lived in that had an indoor toilet and running water. My grandfather was a pattern-maker in the Halifax Shipyards and the house was war time housing in the North End.  My mother told me a story about asking to go with some relatives back to PEI for Christmas one year. Her mother told her that they couldn't afford it but later told her if she went, the train ticket would be her Christmas present. My mother agreed, she always loved the Island.  On the day she was to leave, her mother gave her a small wrapped gift and told her it was so there would be something under the tree.  My mother was disappointed, at the time, to find that it was only a bottle of hand lotion.   But her memory of that Christmas was a very happy memory so for her presents did not make Christmas but rather time spent with family and making Christmas a happy memory for her family.


Her mother, Louise Arsenault had been a school teacher before she married. She taught in a one room school house, teaching children, some of whom likely were near as old as she was and I'm sure some of the boys were bigger than her.  She also taught for a few years after she was married as the school records show her both as Louise Arsenault and Louise Pineau.  My mother also was a teacher. She went to the Nova Scotia Normal College in Truro, Nova Scotia, I guess that's what they called Teacher's College back then.  The first school she taught at was the Alexander MacKay School for boys. I don't think she taught there very long before she married my father. After she married my father she didn't teach again until we were posted to Alsask, Saskatchewan. There she taught Kindergarten at the base school - John A Silver. She actually had my brother in her class one year. She told the story that one day when he tried to get her attention, he called Mrs Stewart, Mrs Stewart, Mommy. She also told us that she was counselled for teaching too much of the Grade 1 curriculum. During our posting to the States, her teaching credentials lapsed and she never taught again afterwards. She did continue in the education field as a teacher's aide and with adult education teaching art. She also was a piano teacher, a catechism teacher and a brownie leader.


This next story is really about my brother, one of my sisters and me. We were living in Foymount, a small radar station near Pembroke Ontario. I would have been about 5 going on 6, my brother only 4 and my sister only 3. In those days, churches weren't locked especially on radar stations. We decided to go and visit with God and took two of our little friends with us.  Well, we had good intentions but once we got there inquisitiveness took over.  We got into the Christmas decorations and broke some ornaments, sprayed water on the floor from the pump fire extinguishers and dumped some books on the floor.  I guess some people found us there and took us home. Dad and the other father went and cleaned everything up but they were still charged and fined $15, probably a lot of money in the early 60's. It was the only time I remember getting a spanking.  But Mum certainly remembered it when on another radar station some teenage boys broke in the church and drank all of the Communion wine. Their father's weren't charged or fined as times had changed in the military but Mum always said it was because one of the boys was an officer's son.



My mother was also a bootlegger. When we lived in Gander, Nfld, my father made home made beer. He also made it when I got older as I remember he would also make root beer for us kids. But anyway back to Gander, one night when my Dad was working, some of his buddies went over to the house. They knew Dad made beer and asked Mum if they could buy some from her. She sold them a few bottles and was happy to tell Dad when he came home that she had made a little extra money. Dad wasn't mad but he told her she couldn't sell beer as she would get him in a lot of trouble as it was illegal for them to sell alcohol. That one sale was it for her career as a bootlegger.









Monday, February 12, 2018

Homeless

This morning my mother passed away. She had a stroke in 2008; she never recovered  from the stroke so she has been in a nursing home since that time. When my father passed away in 2011, I didn't think my mother would be with us this long, she always said she wanted to die and be with dad.

Just last week, the nursing home told us that she was failing and she wouldn't see this summer but they didn't feel her passing was imminent. My sister and I made plans to go down, we were to leave tomorrow evening; now we will leave tonight. 











Rest in peace with the angels now, Mum, you're home with dad.

I'm a homeless child now.

Sunday, March 9, 2014

Birthdays

So last week, my sister Annette and I went to Moncton to spend some time with our Mum. Another of our sisters Karen came over on Wednesday and we all spent the afternoon with Mum. We brought her in lunch from Dairy Queen as she likes burgers and fries. I told Mum it sounded more like a birthday lunch for an 8 year old not an 80 year old but I have to admit the strawberry shake was good.

Mum enjoying her hamburger.
After lunch we had invited my mother's cousin and his wife over; it had been quite some time since we had seen them probably not since my Dad's funeral. After Mum got up, we opened her presents. She got a blouse and slacks, a picture frame, a tole painted plaque for her door and some red slippers.  Last summer, Mum had wanted red shoes but we couldn't find any she liked. So when I saw the red slippers, I told Annette, who hadn't yet bought a gift, that they would be perfect.


Mum and Karen

Mum and me
The red slippers

Karen had also brought me a gift for my birthday, a gift card and a set of snowmen salt and pepper shakers.

Opening my gifts.
My sister Juanita and her family had me over for a dinner for my birthday.  Seafood lasagna, salad and cake; all very good!.  My youngest sister had sent a very nice bouquet of flowers and there were gifts from my niece and my sister and brother-in-law too.

Flowers from Maureen and Steve

Ceramic flower from Jessica, Zini and Adrian

Cookbook from Juanita and Joe and salt and pepper shakers from the Frasers.
  Considering that I had stomach flu and passed a kidney stone during the first week of March, I was lucky to be well enough to go see Mum and to enjoy my birthday. Now tomorrow it will be back to work.

Next up is Keltic's second birthday but more on that later.

Friday, February 28, 2014

Happy Birthday!

Today is my mother's 80th birthday. She lives in a nursing home in New Brunswick and next week one of my sisters and I will be going down to visit with her for a couple days. I wish I could spend more time with her but the cost to travel limits how often I can go down.

Mum's birthday has me thinking though about family and what's important in life.. and like the song says, life is about the people you love.  The song is one by Lynn Miles; she's a musician from right here in Ottawa. I made this video with family photos, some are not the best as they are scans of old family photos but the feeling is there.  In life, the people you love are all that really matters so we need to cherish them and tell them they are loved.



My mother Anne and brother Terence

Anne with her mother Louise and brothers Terence and Philip
Anne with a doll

Graduation from Teacher's College
In the air reserves. 
Mum and Dad with all of us, 40th wedding anniversary
Mum and Dad
Mum with some of her brothers and sisters
Birthday Girl!
Love you, Mum! Happy Birthday!

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Throw Back Thursday


To save money, my Mum often made our clothes when we were younger.  This one year she made all of us the same outfit, even made one for herself. That's me in the back with three of my younger sisters.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Time Well Spent

Last week, I went down to Moncton, New Brunswick to visit my Mum. She lives in a Nursing Home in Riverview, having suffered a stroke a few years ago.  This year was her first Christmas without my Dad so I wanted to spend part of the holidays with her.
I flew in on 1 Jan and my youngest sister flew in the next day.  We were lucky, in that we were able to rent a military married quarter for part of our stay in Moncton. The house is a small 3 bedroom fully-furnished bungalow and at $35 per night, it was an ideal place to stay.



We took Mum out to the Casino on 3 Jan. I think she had a good time although she said the slot machines didn't pay out very big. We were generally only playing five lines on a 2 cent machine, so we were only betting 10 cents a spin. I'm not a big spender but Mum could have been as twice she played the max bet, 30 lines on a 10 cent slot. Mum and I still managed to play all afternoon on only $20, we won about $36 between us but lost it all by the end of the day. We divided the afternoon up by having a lunch in the Casino restaurant; next time we may try the buffet.
The Big Spender
The next day we took her out shopping at the Mall. She said she was glad we were with her as we kept her moving from store to store. She does like to shop. She bought a new purse, quite a few new blouses and a sweater. That evening, as Maureen was leaving the next morning, we went over after supper to see Mum at the home.

Two outings in a row really tired her out so the next day was a lazy day. I didn't go over to see her until after lunch and then I only stayed a couple hours as she wanted to have a nap.

The next day, we did a craft project together and made a winter wreath for the door to her room. It turned out really nice.

Winter Wreath

When I went back that evening, a friend of mine from high school was in visiting Mum. We had recently gotten back in touch by e-mail. He works in Moncton so he said he would stop in regularly to visit.  That's so nice of him as many of her friends have hardly ever visited even though they said they would.

I was flying out late the next day so Mum and I just spent the afternoon chatting and watching television. It was a good trip and time well spent.